Key Reading SKILL: The ability to empower the client.
One of the most important things that a great reader does is inspire you. In my years of doing private sessions, my intention was always to offer people an uplifting message – Not “good news,” but one that validated their feelings and confirmed that they were on the right track.
That doesn’t mean that I don’t deliver challenging information. I once did a reading for a woman whose dead son came through. Although it brought tears to her eyes, when I told her that he had chosen to come through even though his time with her would be limited, she had a deeper understanding of the tragedy that took him from her.
Her own revelation that he would never have traded that time inspired her. This changed her entire relationship with her two daughters, her husband who was about to leave her over this, and her ability to forgive herself for the judgment she carried against herself. When her dead son reminded her that he was only meant to be here for 25 years, it gave her the ability to reclaim her own life.
A number of years ago, I was personally going through what I can only say was an extremely challenging time in a relationship. On a whim I sat down to have my cards read at a psychic fair. Now I’m like everybody else, I love a good reading. I love when someone can tap into the truth of what’s going on and deliver it in a way I can hear it.
This reader pulled the cards and immediately got that I was going through a hard time in a relationship. Spot on, but she then proceeded to tell me that it was going to be difficult for a long time, and that it could be years before I got over it.
I was already feeling beaten down, so you can imagine how thrilled I was to hear from a stranger that I was going to have years of this ahead.
This is an awful thing to do to someone!
And, most people would just buy into what she said. Why? Because she had a partial truth – meaning she knew I was in an emotional turmoil over relationship. What happens is it immediately validates everything else the person says. So if she was right about the relationship, then she must be right about the years of pain ahead. Since her only interest was empowering herself, she ran with her prediction.
Sorry. This is a horrible reading. Unfortunately for her I told her that. I asked her where the constructive empowering part of this was. Her response was she was just the messenger. Bull-dinkie.
Listen, I don’t think every reading should be hearts and flowers, but it does need to speak to a person in a way they can receive the information. All that reading did was make me dislike this woman. And actually, it bummed me out.
It was clear that the reading was about her empowering her talent, not my life. There is no way for any psychic to know for sure if your years ahead will be painful. Truthfully, I think it’s downright irresponsible to plant that thought in someone’s head.
I have come to understand if you don’t give the client the tools to empower them to change their lives, what is the point? If your client shuts down because your truthful information is delivered with brutality, I say find another profession!
How would I have done it differently?
I would’ve let my client know that I tapped into their having a challenging relationship in the present moment. As an empath, I would’ve reminded them of the things they were seeking in that relationship, and empowered them to remember that within themselves. It is more of a dialog of empowerment than proving to my client how good I am.
It takes knowing how to trust your intuition to do that, and I think it is a learned skill. This is one of the many valuable tools that I teach with the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Cards. The point is, once this woman told me horrible information, I didn’t want to hear anything else she had to say. By the way, that’s different from not hearing what you want. But that’s best for another article.
Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean.
Till next time!