We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know
Before my dog Franklin died, I had started house hunting. It’s not that I didn’t like my new house, it’s that I decided I wasn’t comfortable in it.
My neighbor is a realtor and began showing me around. Honestly, nothing came close to what I wanted… each viewing came with me saying… “well… I could do this…”
All the while I wondered WHY I was uncomfortable.
Then my own saying echoed back to me – Knowing Why is the Booby Prize. Who cares why?
So I asked myself new questions:
- What is it I’m not getting here that I think I can elsewhere?
- What are my priorities?
- What do I don’t know, that I don’t know?
The final question could only be answered through answering the first two.
The reality is that I hated my kitchen.And it was the country craftsman style – brown with glass backsplash… no island just floor space.
What I wasn’t getting was a sense of community. A feeling that I could have people over, stand around the island and then sit in a cozy banquette/dining area.
One of the most vital aspects of my life is that I deeply crave community. Not having had a family and feeling cut off and left out, I always want others to feel included.
Next, my priority?
Having the kitchen mattered, but more importantly finding nooks in my home I could retreat into and write. I was felt awkward. The world saw a beautiful home, but it hadn’t become mine. I wanted a place that I created. A place I could write, live and entertain. I had the live part.
The final question asked is the one many of us struggle with:
What do I don’t know, that I don’t know?
The truth is that I’d never learned to organize. Anything. My kitchen, closet, writing. Anything. I’ve driven many people who worked with me crazy by constantly changing mid-stream.
So there were two things happening here:
- My nature to think creatively does not come organized
- There were things I simply never learned to do
Opening up my life to the idea that I could change my kitchen and make my home as I wanted it shocked me. I’d always lived with the idea of things in your home fall where they land.
What I didn’t know – that I didn’t know – is that I simply never learned to organize and keep a home tidy.
This was going to be necessary for my to live clutter free.
This was spurned on through my having a deadline of two book projects this year. I had to be organized, and learned this skill with my writing.
Only through recognizing what I needed to learn was I able to recognize what else I didn’t know.
What is my point?
It can be embarrassing to admit we don’t know how to do something… or we were absent the day a particular skill set was handed out.
It took alot for me to recognize that I needed a kitchen organizer to help me understand how a kitchen functions. Now while that may be second nature to some people, most people, for me, while I did cook, I never focused on the tools needed.
I’ve had friends chide me – what? That’s silly. I can’t function without an organized kitchen.
I never knew what that would be like. I simply didn’t know how to do it. I am learning. It’s funny.
Now go learn how to organize your kitchen. Be spiritual.
For you, what is it that you don’t know you don’t know?
Hint: Look to a part of your life that brings up discomfort or avoidance.
See you soon!
P.S. This blog highlights the stories we will wrap around skills we don’t have. Mine was always that it didn’t matter. The Chakra Wisdom Oracle Cards are based on the original fables. The skills I have learned are all in the Toolkit – the 52 week journey with the lost fables. – I’ll be starting a weekly journey with it in January 2019 (details to come) – in the meantime, grab a copy for yourself and a friend to share the journey in January – HERE.
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