You’re NOT Angry. You’re IN Anger. And other Card Reading Musings…
I have taken to writing a Monday minor rant on my FB page. I’m having a blast with it, and enjoying my anger! Last week I posted about children being left in hot cars and dying. Horrifying! And I ranted about how many gadgets and gizmos we have and yet we don’t have something to send a warning to parents and the police that a child is still in the car. Like an alarm in a child seat…
One woman suggested that “Perhaps you need to look at your own past and see where your family wounding is making you so angry.”
Honestly, that threw me into anger. Who the heck was she? Well, she is someone who tried to create a spiritual TV station and interviewed spiritual luminaries and somewhere along the line decided her knowledge of how to be should be projected onto others.
My response was “What could you possibly benefit from trying to fix or correct my behavior?”
She gave me a wink emoticon and wrote “Looks like I touched a nerve.”
I began to respond with “What outcome could you possible want except to prove how superior and wise you are?” but then, in a moment of clarity, I removed the thread instead.
Because her issues are not mine.
This woman represents spiritual superiority. Once they uncover how to be “spiritual” they feel it’s their duty in life to apply to you trite bumper sticker sayings to your life yet go out in the world, start a coupon business and then go belly-up leaving hundreds of people out thousands of dollars… yes she did that.
So why are these difficult personalities so hell bent on fixing others?
Because they want to look good.
This is a direct result of the brain taking over, giving advice and overriding their intuition, which would probably offer them the opportunity to observe how THEY felt and give them the chance to really connect to others. An intuitive response might look like “Wow, your post makes me want to correct you and help you see something about how you’re trying to rescue everyone. That must mean it’s my deepest need!”
This would then give me a chance to reply with something like “Ironically, my work is all about how WE relate to the issue IS the issue; so it’s always about us.”
Unfortunately, the impulse of the brain to show (someone else) how bright we are is ingrained in us. And, UN-learning this in order to do deeper spiritual work can be challenging.
I am not a therapist, so I don’t process people like one or misuse spiritual tools to in the name of helping. I teach how to live intuitively and most of my clients and people that want to learn to read the Chakra Wisdom Oracle are on their way to intuitive facilitating… such amazing and wonderful work!
I think that there is this misnomer in Spiritual circles that we have to always be examining motives, ideas, words and thoughts and help others to do it too. The problem with this is that it supposes that we are all perfect little beings with halos who just sit and meditate all day – and Ohm our way into perfection. But we’re not. We’re human. And some moments take more acceptance than others.
Much of the work I’ve done with the Chakra Wisdom Oracle has been around acceptance; of others as well as myself.
There are 3 ideas that are key to me in this work:
- If we choose who to be, then Anger or Upset is a choice. That’s why I say, I’m IN upset or IN Anger. I’m not angry or upset as it does not define me it’s a state I choose in the moment.
- I never process others. I support them IN their process. Allowing others to be in upset without it MEANING that they need to look at some issue from their past honors that they choose their life and they can change that state when THEY choose, not because I tell them they need to look at something. I find this incredibly invasive.
- I steer clear of advice, that’s a brain activity – instead I listen to others intuitively. Knowing the difference between your brain and your intuition is vital. When you give advice you’re trying to look good to others which is a brain activity, and the message is that they can’t do it themselves. Listening intuitively honors other points of view and offers them the dignity of their process. And in essence it is the art of the empath.
So great to connect with you again, and I do hope this finds you well.
In my new book; How to Read the Cards for Yourself and Others – the first half of the book is all about becoming the intuitive reader – and of course there are reversals and deeper ideas too.
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