Entitlement vs. Value
We hear so much today about entitlement. I’m not sure if it’s a generational thing, but somewhere along the way the lines got blurred between value and entitlement.
A few years back while I was working on one of my first books, a well meaning friend advised – as I was pouring my heart and soul into that book – which later got published –
Hey don’t put everything you know into that book, save some for the next book.
I remember at the time thinking, why? I may never write another book like this, so might as well give my all. Why would I withhold anything? I didn’t understand that line of thought.
It became a bestseller and I never did write another book in that category. Nor will I. It was complete for me.
Many internet marketers preach about giving value, yet they are marketing to people’s sense of entitlement. They charge high levels of money for information that is far beyond the scope of the person buying it.
In a war torn country, a new iphone may hold less value than a loaf of bread and a bag of apples.
While what someone may offer has value, they are selling it with the air of entitlement – which in and of itself contains a withholding energy – the buyer needs this information in order to create the value in the world they would like to share.
Are you with me?
Meaning, the guru feels entitled to your money because their material is valuable.
Take a moment to wrap your brain around that idea.
This became clear to me one day when an advisor I was working with voiced her opinion about my restarting my spiritual club. I closed it a few years ago and really miss it.
Her response was, well it’s okay as long as you only do one meeting a month and you don’t give them too much.
My entire body went numb.
I’m sorry? Are you referring to people who want to invest time and money working with me?
Why would I want to create distance from people who want to work with me?
It reminds me of the question I was asked one day during a card reading class:
How can we stay detached during a reading?
Why would you want to? The point of this work is the deep personal connections we form, the lives we change and our own growth in it.
Here’s the thing –
I want to clarify the difference between withholding and Investing in people.
Entitlement and withholding go hand-in-hand; just as value and investing in others go hand-in-hand.
Which brings me to this point:
Entitlement is an external experience; while Value is an internal one.
The energy of entitlement conveys that we should and can be famous because we think we should be.
Value is an internal wisdom. There is a graciousness to this level of personal value.
Value means I have been an internal understanding of what my time is worth, I value it, and I value those who invest their own time, money and resources to create something worthwhile in their life.
I recently created a free 7 day Chakra money attraction meditation series. I wanted to share my own process for increasing personal value to attract money.
I did not offer replays. My idea was; show up for the live sessions or purchase the full package for $27. YOU read that right. $27. A limited time offer… when I put it in my store in a few days it will be $97.
You are going to smile… ready?
I received this email:
“This is GREAT if you have the money to buy it! But my Credit cards are maxed out. How fair is that???”
The summit was free if she showed up. But she missed the point, didn’t she? She didn’t value herself enough to even look at her own spending.
She felt entitled because no one taught her how to handle money in a way that supported increasing her personal value. To her credit, she could see that this was going to help her.
Sadly, her anger directed at me, was going to block her from getting what she needed. I was to blame.
Entitlement shows up, when we don’t value who we are.
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In the meantime, I look forward to connecting with you personally.