The Danger of Public Shaming and Tools to Live Into Your Gifts Now
I received a comment on a Facebook post I put up the other day. Now anyone who knows social media, knows that it is the wild west of opinions. But did I miss the memo?
When did it become OKAY to use Facebook as a public shaming arena?
First, I’d like to show you the post, the comment and my reply. Then let’s go behind the scenes as I breakdown for you, which Chakra it assaulted, my response, and how most responses never really clear the issue. Ready?
How appropriate that here we are in the first week of a NEW year. Easy does not always mean that something will turn out well, anymore than difficult means or something seemingly bad will turn out anything less than spectacular. I hope you will join me this year on the Journey through the Chakra Wisdom Toolkit! Click here to get all the info about joining me for the year! Can’t wait! With Love, Tori
Comment from Meredith: (not her real name)
And how much does someone pay someone that was given a gift?
Hmmm, like Doctors, who have the gift of healing, or singers who have the gift of music, or Authors who spend years, hours and sweat working, honing their craft? Or the “hey you’re an artist, can’t you just create this little flyer? It’ll only take you a minute.” Hard to say Meredith (name changed), every gift we are given…
Since I spent over $100k of my own money self-publishing the Chakra Wisdom Cards when no one would, and with my last $5K I put up a website for people to try my cards free, because I had nothing to lose… and then miracles happened… people bought the deck. It became successful. Then, with what little I had left I traveled to London and found a publisher who took the deck on. It became a bestseller. I then invested more money and time giving away lessons and free info for people to learn the cards. Soon after, to keep giving away what I could I had to hire a staff, now I had another company, working 17 hours a day to support others in their journey. My Intuitive Insider Club is $347 for the entire year. 52 weeks. With me. No other card creator teaches their material like this – with this level of access to me. That means – with 20 people, I’ll make around 7,000 dollars. After I pay everyone else, I’ll be barely breaking even. The answer to your question? Why should you pay to go see a movie? Those people have gifts. You’re entitled to it free right? Your question is what makes EVERY artist who has ever quit, quit, and those who are unstoppable continue to be. You are saying “Who are you to shine your light and be paid?” And honestly Meredith, what this reveals is your need to shut someone else down, because someone shut you down. What makes this kind of thinking dangerous is that there are those out there who will quit, curl into a ball and slink away over this kind of question… the shrill “Who do you think you are?!” that every sensitive person avoids, shrivels up when they hear. And, I will not allow you to get away with it. Everyone has a gift, few really want to invest in developing it.
There are so many gifted, talented, juicy wonderful people who simply never start anything because of fear, no; terror of the Meredith’s of the world. The schoolyard bully who shines the light on our most deep vulnerability, points to it and laughs.
I had a Meredith growing up. Did you? The one who was cool only because her mouth was bigger than Brooklyn, and while no one really liked her, I think of it like a loudspeaker. When you’re behind it, everything’s fine, but the moment you take one step in front the microphone causes that shrill screech forcing you to run back into place.
The Meredith’s are the Loud Speakers.
In reality, Meredith called me names, shoved me and found ways to kick, punch, pinch, threaten, and in public make sure that I was isolated. Looking back, I can see it was because there was a magic to the little girl I was. I was a bit of a free spirit who hummed to myself all through class and the boys liked me, although I didn’t dare like anyone or Meredith would point her loudspeaker my way. I think others were relieved it was me and not them being assaulted. And who wouldn’t?
I think my self-esteem would have survived Meredith if it wasn’t for my mother’s own inability to process her pain, and she interjected her undeveloped gifts in me, a wide open, walking Yes for love. Listen, love and admiration was all I wanted. I was trained that love and admiration would soon bring shaming and I simply did not have what it took to withstand it, so I avoided the limelight and kept myself small for many years.
Public shaming was humiliating for me, and even after my mother succumbed to the disease of alcoholism when I was 15, I still tried to hide and stay below the radar. Attention meant humiliation.
Change would come: What I had not yet learned was: what you skip, stops you.
I had no idea that it was the visitations from the angels (that would develop into the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Cards), were tools gifted to me to live a life of freedom. They contained ideas and concepts of healing and growing; deep understanding and love that I’d never experienced.
Today I can look back and see that I was always using my “gifts,” that I always created money from creative efforts…however, it was the lessons I learned from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle original fables that taught me to value it.
As I began working with the Original Fables all those years ago, value came into my life. I shared them with others and they too began to value who they were and their gifts.
Let’s go back to Meredith’s thinly veiled statement…
People with a gift should give it away because they got it free.
It initially ping’d my first chakra, my roots, family of Origin beliefs. These are all uncovered in the Red Chakra Wisdom Oracle Fables. I knew what it caused in me, yet I did not defend myself. In fact, it erupted my sixth chakra, my intuitive side and like a mother cub, I had to shut this kind of bullying down. I was tapping into family of Origin strength and multi-generational healing which is in the 6th Chakra Fables of the Toolkit. By activating my first chakra, I became aware, but it was the power of the 6th Chakra that mobilized my anger.
So when I read her response (“And how much does someone pay someone that was given a gift?”) I SAW Red, then calmed into the tools of my sixth chakra. My anger allowed me to reveal the bully to others and state that we all have gifts, and it is up to us to use them. And if we don’t use our gifts can: become a bully, an alcoholic, a gambler, overeater… you get the idea.
Does her statement bring up an emotion in you? Do you see the key word that makes it an assault? The word: And.
If that word wasn’t in that question, the answer would be simple: whatever value or price the market allows. Right?
Why go deeper?
Because now, these days I feel like the old lady on my porch with a broom telling the neighborhood troublemaker to scram. This woman didn’t insult me, or intimidate me, and she will never stop me… but
She enrages me.
Not for me, but for all of us. For those out there who go around shutting down impressionable people who have outstanding, mindblowing gifts that I want to see or hear or experience.
Think of your favorite singer, painter, doctor, poet, writer or anyone else you admire… what if this level of shaming hit that person at the right moment and THEY gave up? I remember seeing an interview with the actor Colin Farrell who said he almost gave up after he was so badly reviewed in a film.
Anyone who tries to minimize YOUR value is bullying you.
I have spent my life studying and working with the Chakra Wisdom Oracle fables.
The Chakra Wisdom Oracle Cards, started as the fables, and as I worked with them grew my personal value and watched others do the same in mastermind groups they morphed into the deck.
I am profoundly honored to see how many successfully gifted, and talented people who are using their gifts today – from an Academy Award winning artist, to a young successful Producer and Mom, to bestselling authors…
It wasn’t only the perseverance and the support, it was the journey with the fables that gave them the ability to spot shamers, know instantly it wasn’t about them and move past it.
How many people get stopped because someone in the past shut them down and now they get stopped at the same point?
The 52 Week Journey with the Lost Fables built upon in their own Chakra that they uncovered and discovered as we journeyed together in fable study groups.
Listen, my response to her didn’t clear her issue, it won’t. This is for us. Those of us who are on the path!
Those of us who refuse to die with our gifts undeveloped.
Who want to be fearlessly ourselves.
And as my friend Claire Zammit says, “Fiercely Protect” our feminine (or creative) side.
This experience reminded me that somehow over the years, I have become unstoppable. This is one of the most profound aspects of the Chakra Wisdom Oracle fables.
What I want for you is to become unstoppable inspired.
I learned what was really going on and how to step away from it.
People contact me all the time wanting to master the cards and ask me if I’m teaching them. My question is this: Why not master your internal Chakra journey AND you will master these cards beyond your wildest dreams?
Those who see the value of this rare opportunity with me by joining the Intuitive Insider Club and meeting weekly with me to be inspired by your own strength, intuition and sheer joy you’ve been suppressing will get this.
People like Meredith will always be on the sideline criticizing and threatening. The difference is, when you’re running a marathon, you can’t hear them over the cheering crowds.
This year, make it a year where you find support beyond what you can imagine right now. If that means join in with what I’m doing, c’mon down.
If not, don’t let the Meredith’s dictate who you are, or what you’ll do. EVER.
Lots of Love,
PS Here’s the link to get all the deets on the club.